Ever feel like you’re going to mess up as a small group leader? Like you need to have all the answers, say everything perfectly, and make sure the night goes just right? If so, you’re not alone.

I was just talking with a small group leader who was feeling all that pressure. They were worried they might screw up, say the wrong thing, or not meet some invisible standard of perfection. Maybe you’ve felt that way too.

Here’s what I told them: Your group doesn’t need you to be perfect. They need you to be present.

You’re Not Expected to Have All the Answers

One of the best things you can say as a leader is, “I don’t know, but we can figure it out together.” There’s so much freedom in that. It takes the pressure off you and shifts the focus to what really matters—growing in faith together.

But here’s the thing. You’re not just a fellow traveler. You’re an encourager and a leader. You don’t need to have every answer, but you do have the courage to lead into the unknown. That’s what makes you a great small group leader.

Leadership isn’t about always having the perfect response. It’s about being willing to go first. It’s about saying, “I may not know where this road leads, but let’s walk it together.” Your group doesn’t need a theological expert. They need someone who will create space for them to wrestle with faith, ask hard questions, and take their next step.

And remember, you’re not leading alone. Your church, your pastors, and your group members are there to support you. More importantly, God is with you in the uncertainty, guiding you as you guide others.

So step forward with confidence. Not because you know everything, but because you trust the One who does.

People Follow Real, Not Perfect

Craig Groeschel puts it this way. “People would rather follow someone who is real than someone who is always right.”

Think about that. The pressure to be right all the time can actually push people away. But when you lead with authenticity, when you show up, doubts and all, it creates connection.

Your group doesn’t need a leader who has it all together. They need someone willing to walk with them. That’s what builds real community.

The Trap of Unrealistic Expectations

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking you need to be an expert in theology, counseling, and leadership all at once. But that’s not the expectation. Instead, focus on being faithful, available, and teachable (we’re going to ignore the acroymn F.A.T. leadership).

If you show up, love your people, and stay open to learning, you’re already winning.

Your Presence is Enough

If you’re feeling anxious about leading, take a deep breath. God called you to this role, and He equips those He calls. Your presence matters more than your perfection.

So as you lead this week, keep it simple.

• Show Up – Be present. Engage with those in front of you
• Join In – Share your struggles and victories.
• Be Real – Have the humility to admit when you don’t know something and seek wisdom together.

You are not leading alone. You are part of a bigger mission. And you are enough.

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